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Hassan “Papi” Campbell: On Death & Dying
By Khalil Amani
I done loss hella family—mother, father, brother, nephew, niece, grandparents, cousins, sister-in-law, father-in-law, mother-in-law, etc.—and I’m sure many of you know about losing loved ones too. Our nature is to stay in the physical. It doesn’t matter what religion you believe in, staying alive is our basest instinct.
My mother died at 42 years of age. I was just a mere 19 years old when “The Universe” called her home. I know about death & dying—about losing the first “god” a child knows—its mother. No pain I have ever felt since that time has compared to losing my mother. My mom, having bore five children—none of my siblings showed an outward emotion at my mother’s passing like I did. I was beyond consolable! I cried to the heavens at her funeral and was overcome with faintness. I know about losing your mother! I was with my mother at the hospital the same night she passed away, having left the hospital just hours before she would succumb to cancer.
Watching YouTuber Hassan “Papi” Campbell cry on the Internet was heart-wrenching. Whether one wants to believed that it was staged—that he set up his camera and went, “Lights, camera, action!”—or that his crying was authentically real—it made for great YouTube! Hassan took us on an emotional roller coaster ride for a good amount of time—where his chat-room overflowed with “Condolences” and “R.I.P.’s” for his mother—until it became evident that we had been duped—that his mother had not yet died, but was in the hospital, still fighting for her life.
After the tears, in which I, like many others, felt his pain and then, like a bipolar person, switched his pain into anger and went ape-shit crazy on his family. I was emotionally invested in Hassan’s pain and then my emotions changed when Hassan went on tirade, first against his family, disrespectfully calling out his family for not visiting his mother in the hospital. Never, in my 58 years and 9 months on the planet have I ever heard such venom spewed from one man’s mouth towards his familia! How does Hassan go from wanting our compassion and sympathy and expecting us to understand his pain when he calls his biological sister a “little bitch” and “monkey bitch?” How can we sympathize and empathize with a man who threatens to have his goons disrupt his mother’s funeral, should she die? And beat up the elderly in wheelchairs? And stomp out the children? And call his mother’s siblings nasty names? And alas! Go on a killing spree around the country against people he’s never met?
What about those beautiful babies Papi? You’d rather sit in prison eating Cheezits, rather than raise your children? Really? So your hatred for certain YouTubers is greater than your love for your children? The need to kill people that you’ve never met is a higher priority than loving the people you see everyday?
At this point, Hassan “Papi” Campbell needs his YouTube shut down, a visit from the government and a nice little “Baker Act” vacation. (The *Baker Act is a Florida law that enables families and loved ones to provide emergency mental health services and temporary detention for people who are impaired because of their mental illness, and who are unable to determine their needs for treatment.) I’m sure there’s a law in place in New York for people who are removed from reality and threatening to harm others. Hassan says he’s not “suicidal,” simply because he doesn’t want to pull the trigger on himself, but claiming that he’s going to have his goons hurt people and that he’s gonna go around the country and knock on doors is a suicide mission—like “Suicide By Cop”—like, when you’re too chicken-shit to kill yourself, so a person will run at the police with a weapon and let the cops put a few slugs in his dome. This is what Hassan is asking for with his threats of murder! Hassan needs to be “Baker Acted!” It is this mentality that we read where a man has slaughtered his whole family and then goes on a raging drunken stupor to—as Hassan has said—“feel my pain.” When Hassan said that he’d like to “stick heavy dick” in children to make a certain YouTuber “feel his pain”—he’s at it again, threatening that if his mother dies, certain YouTubers are gonna “feel his pain.” At the sake of being redundant, Hassan needs “Baker Acting!”—before he does something horrible to those sweet little babies! He’s talking about suicide missions and never wanting to live. I fear for his children!
A mother dying is no cause for creating havoc. A mother dying is the natural order of the cycle of life! For the good book says, “One generation passeth away, and another generation cometh: but the earth abideth for ever” (Ecc. 4:1). Children are supposed to bury their parents. This is the natural order of The Universe. What Hassan may have to experience with the impending death of his mother is no new thing. It is a reality that many of us have had to endure.
Death is a fact of life!
In 1969 a Swiss psychiatrist named Elisabeth Kübler-Ross helped us make sense of death & dying in her book, “On Death & Dying” by designating five (5) distinct stages of the dying process, which are #1. Denial, #2. Anger, #3. Bargining, #4. Depression, and #5. Acceptance. It is through these five stages that people come to terms with losing a loved one. In the first stage, “Denial,” some people don’t believe that they, or someone close to them is dying and just refuse to accept the idea that death looms around the corner. In the second stage, “Anger”—a person may lash out—as we’ve all seen with Hassan “Papi” Campbell—with a YouTube rant against his family and perceived YouTube enemies, where he vows to do everything in the event of his mother’s passing—from having goons destroy his mother’s funeral—to beating up his elderly relatives and stomping out the children—to driving across the country to kill YouTubers whom he believes spoke ill of his mother. (For the record, no YouTuber has ever disrespected Hassan’s mother.)
This is Kübler-Ross’s “Anger” stage—where a person will project his/her fears of dying—or someone near him dying, on others. Hassan’s anger is classic, textbook Stage two (2) “Anger.” In his mind, his mother’s eminent passing gives him the false notion that he can no longer live; that even though the human species continues on after losing loved ones—in Hassan’s mind, this is the end of his world. Hassan has yet to move on to stages 3, 4 & 5—Bargining, Depression and Acceptance.
In Kübler-Ross’s third stage—“Bargining"—a person will have that talk with God and say things like, “If you let my mother live, I’ll change my ways God!” “I promise to do this and that God!” And afterwards comes Depression and Acceptance. What we are witnessing with Hassan is a case-study of the five stages of coping with death and dying.
What Hassan has to understand is that the grieving process is different for everyone. Some relatives may not visit his mother because they are not emotionally ready to see her in her demise; for as someone in the medical field who worked in a hospital for 25 years, I commonly heard, “I can’t stand coming in a hospital!” It is evident, by what we are hearing from Hassan that indeed, his mother is about to, “Go gentle into that good night” (Dylan Thomas’s poem on death)—that death is nigh. To Hassan I say, lashing out at family is not the answer! It is a selfish response to those who are trying to cope with dying and death—in their own way—and that there is no right or wrong way to cope with death. Family not going to the hospital does not mean that they love your mother any less. It simply means that they are having a very hard time dealing with the inevitable—and your actions and very painful and hurtful words—Hassan—are judgmental and ill-timed. You don’t know the hearts and minds of each family member coping with your mother’s illness! You, Hassan, are acting like an overgrown spoiled brat who thinks that your grieving process in the only grieving process!
God forbid that your mother dies, but calling your sister a “monkey bitch”—would your mother approve of your language towards that which sprang from her thigh? I think not!
Hassan! Might now be time for you to repent and ask Allah to spare your mother’s life? What do I mean by repent? Make a public apology to that YouTuber’s deceased mother and take back your vile words, that not only may your mother’s days be prolonged, but yours as well. And—even though, in times past, you tried to paint my deceased mother in an incestuous light, I forgive you and have sent a prayer up to heaven for your mother. Because I’m a spiritual being—because others are spiritual beings and have a connection to something greater than “The Self” (Ego)—we are not given to tit for tat—“You kill my cat, I’m-a kill your dog” rhetoric. We should never want to see our worst enemy’s parents dead. We should never speak ill of the deceased! Are we not the children of a First-World society, who have shed the barbarous ways of ages gone by, wherein life meant very little? Chilon of Sparta (circa 600 B.C.E.) said, “De mortuis nihil nisi bonum,” which, interpreted is, ”Of the dead, [say] nothing but good.”—That it is socially inappropriate to speak ill of the dead.
Sometimes God sends people with a message of salvation and deliverance—a message that can change the course of one’s life—and sometimes, when that message is not heeded, The Universe, in its own time, will recompense the evils that men say and do. Now’s the time Hassan to make wrong, right. “A word to the wise is sufficient” and “He that hath an ear, let him hear.”
I dedicate this vlog to Hassan’s mother’s heath and wellness with the hopes that she is restored,—and yet, even more, that if and when the angel of death comes—that the Campbell family be strengthened by the great woman that she was—that in her passing, Hassan might realize a sacred truth about all mothers!